Wednesday, April 1, 2015

201200340 Do young Kim/3 Steps to Breaking Up Successfully/Thursday56

Love is a beautiful thing but all things must come to an end at some point in time. Love is the source of your energy while it lasts but dragging on a relationship that you no longer care about would make you suffer misery beyond words. Thus, ending a relationship is something everyone must learn in order to prevent themselves from suffering such misery. Ending a relationship is a 3 step process which consists of determination, interaction, and settlement. Understanding these 3 steps will help all of those who are suffering out there in an unhappy relationship.

The first step of ending a relationship is determination. Determination here means that a person who seeks to end a relationship must prepare his or her own mind for the impending break up. One can not waver when the moment of break up comes and in order to prevent any sort of confusion and second guessing in the near future, one must convince oneself that ending this relationship is a necessity for oneself. The simplest way to carry out this process is to weigh the pros and cons of breaking up. If the pros outweigh the cons, then leaning towards ending a relationship becomes that much easier.

The next step in ending a relationship is interaction. Interaction here means that you need to confront the partner in your relationship. You can't end a relationship smoothly without ever facing the person face to face. To tell your partner how you feel and how you have made up your mind lets them know that you are very serious about ending the relationship. It also serves as an official signal for them to start thinking about how to end the relationship on their end as well. This may be the most fearful and intimidating step but it must be done in order to end a relationship in a swift manner without any further complications.

The last step in ending a relationship is settlement. Settlement here does not refer to settling between two people but rather a settlement within oneself. Once you have made up your mind and informed the significant other that the relationship has come to an end, you must follow through with your decision and words through action and this is may be the most difficult step to take in ending a relationship. The first two steps may be awkward and scary but they aren't as difficult as this last step. Once you end a relationship, there's bound to be a period when you feel that you have made a mistake and turn back the clock. Then you may call your ex and rekindle an already broken relationship once more in hopes of salvaging it when the fact is that you really can't. To prevent all this fiasco, you must settle within yourself that the relationship has finally come to an end for real and you must move on mentally from the past and look into the future. Without some peace of mind and settlement of your own within your head, there will be confusion and fluctuations within your mind and this will most likely lead to more suffering in the future. In this last step, you must look in the mirror and be able to tell yourself that it's over and you are ready to start over.

Going through this simple 3 step process will help you end a relationship in a swift and smooth manner without many complications in the future. But this is easier said than done and one must always stick to the principles of determining, interacting, and settling to end a relationship with minimal suffering and damage. There are numerous ways to end a relationship but this 3 step process will help you end a relationship effectively and help you turn over a new leaf and start fresh as soon as you can settle down within your mind. 


  1. I found your essay very interesting and informative to read. While I felt that your hook and conclusion was very well written, I think that it would have been better if you came up with specific examples to support your body paragraph. Although, despite the fact that your essay lacked examples, I thought it was extremely descriptive and detailed. Overall, I enjoyed your essay very much. (201202968, Lim Jung Yun)

  2. Gayoung Kim | What an interesting subject! I think your essay is well organized and it also has clear ideas. Your insight through the paragraphs including conclusion part seems great. But I couldn't find some kind of process in each paragraph for now. Anyways, your essay is helpful and enjoyable. :-)